Polyamory Resources
Books on non-monogamy
Cascade Spring Cook and Zhahai Spring Stewart
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Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and
Sustaining Open Relationship by Tristan Taormino
(2008).
Opening Up is a practical, well-researched
book on the variety of ways in which relationships can be open. It is
easy to read, with interesting stories from people Tristan Taormino
interviewed, and lots of questions for the reader
to consider when thinking about having an open relationship. It also
shares insights from a wide variety of books relating to sexuality and
relationships.
There's no sense that any one choice
is better than any other, as long as people are honest about what
they're doing. As she says, "My mission in sex and relationship
education has always been to empower people to explore all their
options, discover what works best for them, and go out and get it." Her
approach is very successful.
This is at the top of my list of books
to read for people who are thinking about opening their relationship,
or wondering how to deal with the issues that arise in a nonmonogamous
situation.
Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open
Marriage by Jenny Block (2008)
Open is a
delightful story of one woman's explorations on the way to a fairly
stable polyamorous relationship with her husband and her female lover.
It touches on the mixed messages that our society gives girls about
sexuality and how to be a woman. Jenny Block seamlessly weaves the
ideas from various authors into the unfolding of her own thoughts and
experiences.
I highly recommend this book for both
entertainment and thought-provoking ideas.
The Polyamory Handbook: A User's Guide by Peter J. Benson (2008)
The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt (1998)
Polyamory: the New Love Without Limits: Secrets of Sustainable Intimate Relationships by Deborah M. Anapol (1997)
Plural Loves: Designs for Bi and Poly Living Edited by Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio (2004)
Lesbian Polyfidelity by Celeste West (1996)
The Lesbian Polyamory Reader: Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Casual Sex Edited by Marcia Munson and Judith P. Stelboum (1999)
Pagan Polyamory: Becoming a Tribe of Heart by Raven Kaldera (2005)
Sex, Love, and Marriage in the 21st Century: The Next Sexual Revolution Ed. By Robert T. Francoeur, Martha Cornog and Timothy Perper (1999)
The New Intimacy: Open-Ended Marriage and Alternative Lifestyles by Ronald Mazur (1973 and 2000)
Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships by Wendy-O Matik (2002)
Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless
& Hopeful by Anthony Ravenscroft (2004).
See my review for
Loving More magazine
Loving More: The Polyfidelity Primer by Ryam Nearing (1992)
Sex Without Guilt in the 21st Century
by Dr. Albert Ellis (2003) (Not about polyamory per se, but definitely
open to it).
See my review
for Loving More magazine
Marriage and Alternatives: Exploring Intimate Relationships by Roger W. Libby and Robert N. Whitehurst (1977)
Hot & Cool Sex: Cultures in Conflict by Anna K. and Robert T. Francoeur (1974)
The Extra-Marital Sex Contract by Jay Ziskin and Mae Ziskin (1973)
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